Think back to when you were a kid, remember going to those family reunions, or Christmas dinner. You barely saw some of these family members all year. Yet they would grab you, hug you, and almost instantly tell you who you were like. As if you didn't have your own personality, I knew I did, even as a young child it bothered me that I had to be "like" someone else.
I clearly remember being compared to my Auntie Debbie, now, don't get me wrong, I love that lady with all my heart. The problem was, I didn't understand what part of me was like her. Was it the way I looked, or my demeanor. You see, my Auntie Debbie is a clinically diagnosed schizophrenic. Is that what they meant? I spent my teen years thinking my hormonal episodes were schizophrenia. Simply an unfair thing to do to a child. I wanted to be Darla, I wanted to be who I was meant to be, without any predetermined outcome. I don't think that is too much to ask?
- It's their complete right to figure it out, on their own.
- Being labelled, is never going to help them be anything, but labelled.
- They are their very own person, regardless of what you want. Dont be selfish, this is their life.
- You may persuade them to be something they are not! That is clearly unfair!
- It's their life! Give it to them.
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