Single? Take the time to work on you

3 years ago
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We’ve all done it. Admit it.

(And if not, you’re probably not human)

When we’re found in the single zone, when all of our other friends are coupled up, getting married and starting families, we are wondering what the fresh hell is wrong with us.

Yes, because that is the reason! There is something wrong with us. We have too much flab, maybe our laugh turned the person off, or maybe you’re just plain ugly and you should hide your face.

Let me tell you this: none of that is true.

It is easy to start picking out our flaws to figure out the reason behind singledom. Our flaws can be controlled, so therefore we try to change them. We tend to forget greater things, such as timing which may be the real reason why we are single. It just simply is not the right time yet. Just because it seems as though your social circle is shacking up with significant others, it seems as though you need to catch up with the newly united Joneses.

So you panic.

Consider your life for a minute. If you have a career, are you spending late nights in the office or are you considering extending your education? Do you feel satisfied with what you do on a day-to-day basis? Even if you are, and those thoughts of wanting to be part of a dynamic duo are clouding your brain, maybe you’re doing something to mentally sabotage yourself from meeting someone.

It could be your career – you really do want that promotion.

You really do fear commitment.

Your coupled up friends have made you so angsty that you tend to give off negative vibes to potential dates (you may not even realize you’re doing this).

If you have any of those realizations, maybe this is the time for you to be single. This is the time to focus on you internally and figure out what you really want in your life. You may even notice that a relationship is not what you need right now, but rather a major distraction on your path to conquer the world.

Just remember that there is nothing wrong with you.

There will be a right time. Just take this time to work on you—for you, not for anyone else.

 

 

 

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