Getting Out Of The Trap Of Addiction and/or Alcoholism

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How you can get out of the trap of addiction, and stop letting drugs and/or alcohol control your life.
You have no control of your life when addicted to drugs, and YES, alcohol IS a drug, although you may think that you are totally in control. Get out of the trap? I am not trapped, I am not addicted. “One might say.”

Possibly you are thinking:
· I work at a good job making a decent salary.
· I have a home, and a family I am supporting.
· I am not standing on a street corner begging for money and then buy drugs or maybe a bottle of booze.

Or maybe you are thinking:
· I do drugs because I want to, not because I have to.
· It’s a social thing.
· I can control it.

Well, here’s the hardcore truth…
Just because you are a socially functioning addict or alcoholic, does not mean there isn’t a problem there. If you have to have a drink or even a glass of wine, or any mind altering drug to have fun or socialize. If you get up in the morning and you have to do drugs in order to make it through your workday. Then no, you are NOT in control of your life and there are issues to address.
You are just like other addicts who actually know they are addicts and feel trapped in their addiction seeing no way out.
Addicts need drugs and or alcohol just to function or to have fun. It doesn’t matter where we come from or what drugs we do or have done, or how good of a job we have.
Addiction can happen to anyone.

Are you wondering how I know about these things?
I am a 47-year-old recovering drug addict. Drugs and alcohol had control of my life for 31 of those years. I was flying high on autopilot, in the self-destruction mode, and I found recovery just in time to save my life. I have been clean and sober for over four-and-a-half years now. Drugs and alcohol no longer control my life. And I am living a life that I never thought would ever be possible. I am living proof that recovery is possible for anyone who truly wants it. Drugs and alcohol put me through a life of pain and survival through many traumatic events. And caused me to be put in jail more times than I can remember.
I am now a published author of my memoirs titled TRAPpED, a book that was VERY painful to write, and is now giving hope and inspiration to others. In addition, I have the honor of working with an amazing group of very inspiring women, all volunteers, all breast cancer survivors, helping breast cancer survivors. I have a volunteer position as the Ribbons of Life Breast Cancer Foundation’s fund raising chair. A non-profit organization. I feel so blessed to be working with these women. I have a life and a future today, a future without drugs. A future I look forward to.

I lived in hell most of my life, but I clawed my way out. I escaped the trap of addiction and now I am living, not just existing. And I want to share with anyone who cares to listen, how I got clean and have been able to remain so.
Believe me when I say, drugs do control your thinking. They control who we think our friends are. In our addiction, our friends are people we only hang out with in bars, or that we sell drugs to, or buy drugs from, people who would sell their own mother in order to get drugs. Most of our “friends” are people we would have nothing to do with if we weren’t addicts. Drugs also control what kinds of jobs we can get because when applying for a job most jobs do drug and alcohol testing before they will hire you. Most of us have criminal records that keep us from getting the jobs we want. Drugs and alcohol make us lie, cheat and steal. The list goes on and on.
In our addiction we feel trapped, we do not know how to survive without drugs. This reality is just an illusion. We only felt trapped because we knew no other way to live. We didn’t know how to put our hands out and ask for help. In our recovery however we learn that we do have choices, more choices than we can see, and we do have the freedom to choose. Do we want to live? Or do we just want to exist and endure the painful life that we get from our addiction? Some of us die, and some end up in prison. There is a way to get out of the trap and stop addiction from controlling our lives.
If you have a problem with drugs or alcohol, and your feeling trapped in your addiction, I would like to give you some advice that worked for me and has proven to be very effective for millions of people to stop addiction and learn a new and wonderful way of living.
First of all we must realize that we have a problem. Then realize that we cannot do this alone. For some of us, like myself, it is necessary to go into a residential drug rehabilitation program to get clean. It is very important that when we decide we want to recover that we must go to 12-step meetings regularly. This is where we start to learn a new way to live and also learn that we are not alone.
We start making new friends, we learn that we must break all ties with our “friends” that use or drink. Please don’t fool yourself into thinking you CAN hang around “friends” who are still using or drinking and not have it cause you to pick up. This is just another illusion; it will be just a matter of time before you are using or drinking again. If you have decided that you want recovery and your “friends” do not feel the same way. You must stay away from them for your own protection and recovery. It is important to put recovery first above anything. If they are truly your friends they will be happy for you and will understand. Once they see how much your life is changing for the better they just might join you on your road to recovery. However, if they get mad at you for your decision, and try to get you to have a drink or indulge in some drugs with them then they do not have your best interests at heart and you will surely know that they were never your friends to begin with.
I have met some of the best people I know in recovery, and I have found friendships that will last a lifetime. I mean real friends that will be there for me no matter what. People who truly care about me, people just like me who know where I’m coming from and it will be the same way for you.
When you first start attending meetings you may feel a little uncomfortable, or you may not. It is normal to feel this way but as you continue going to meetings, you will make new friends, and you will start looking forward to attending meetings. That is the way it is for most of us. If you continue going to meetings, do what is suggested, and don’t pick up no matter what, your life will get better. Once you start hearing other people's stories you will realize you are not alone. We are all seeking the same thing. To get out of the trap of addiction, and start living normal and happy lives. We are seeking freedom.
When I first got to the program I had trust issues. Most of my life in my addiction, I found myself trying to trust untrustworthy people and was convinced that I that could not trust myself. In recovery I began healing from my trust issues and have since learned to trust again. You will begin testing relationships with other recovering addicts and you just might be surprised at how easy it is to find good friends, people just like you who are not using.
After we go to a few meetings we find someone who inspires us, we ask them to sponsor us as we begin working towards recovery. Don’t be nervous about asking someone to sponsor you, when we sponsor someone it helps us as much as it helps the person who we sponsor. It is always an honor when a woman asks me to sponsor her. The 12-steps are the blueprints of our recovery. Our sponsor will guide us through working the steps. We learn a new way to live by applying spiritual principals to our daily lives. We learn to accept our past and let it go. As we begin our journey on our road to recovery we learn to live life on its own terms. Our lives become worthwhile and we lose the obsession to use. Many of us as we enter the program, have much pain and grief to get through. While applying the twelve steps in our daily lives we feel the pain, and we release it. We feel our feelings and we let them go. We heal from our past and move forward. We move into our future and start living better lives. Recovery has been a lot of fun for me. I was welcomed into a new family in recovery, and I get love and support from all of them.
If you have a problem with drugs and alcohol please get help and stop addiction from controlling your life. If you truly want to live a life free from active addiction. You can do it by making a decision and get into a 12-step program. Take back your life. Get out of the trap of Addiction!

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